At some point in our lives, we will all be (or know) caregivers. It can feel like a thankless task, and friends and family occasionally make comments that are unhelpful or even hurtful. Here are some ways to best show empathy, help support the caregiver, and avoid upsetting them:
At some point in our lives, we will all be (or know) caregivers. It can feel like a thankless task, and friends and family occasionally make comments that are unhelpful or even hurtful. Here are some ways to best show empathy, help support the caregiver, and avoid upsetting them:
DO SAY
- “I really appreciate your caregiving. Is there anything I can do to support you?”
- “You’re doing an incredible job. If you face any obstacles, please let me know if you need any assistance problem-solving.”
- “I know you’ve been taking care of X for a while now. I’d love to gift you a massage or another self-care activity you’d like.
- “I appreciate that it can be challenging to watch a loved one become frail and less able. I know that must be difficult. I’m here if you’d ever like to talk.”
DON’T SAY
- “Are you still caring for X? Wow.”
- “You should really be spending your time doing X instead.”
- “You’re never free to hang out. All you do is look after X.”
