Having the conversation about downsizing with our aging parents can be hard on several levels — not only are we accepting that they’re getting older and will eventually be unable to keep up with everything that goes along with owning a home, but they may become emotional and not want to ask for help.
When it comes time to broaching the conversation, the Family Caregiver Alliance suggests facilitating an open and honest discussion to not only go over where your parent(s) will live, but also review any care they may need, finances, lifestyle changes, and how you and other family members can make the transition as smooth as possible.
As plans are being made, and knowing that they may be a bit fluid before being finalized, it’s time to start thinking about decluttering. In a perfect world, you could start the task six months to a year ahead of a move, taking time to slowly go through the process. To make the process easier on everyone, try to limit sorting and packing to two hours a day. Plan to go through one room at a time so you don’t overwhelm yourself or your parents.
One way to manage items you’re sorting through is to divide them into four categories: definitely save, maybe save, donate/sell/give away, or toss. Then, act on those action items. Collect important documents to be sure they’re kept together and easily accessible; think deeds, wills, birth certificates, military records and passports.
Going through a home filled with memories will take time and patience. As you’re going through the rooms and piles with your parents, take breaks along the way to share stories and memories. After all, they kept these things for a reason and you can learn more about them through the downsizing process.
